50 & Holding

The trials, tribulations and unexpected joys of being 50+

Friends Forever July 4, 2010

Filed under: aging,friendship,life,love,Uncategorized — assistingu1st @ 2:13 pm
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Have you noticed that the older you get, the harder it is to make friends.  Oh, you have lots of acquaintances that weave in and out of your life.  But chances are, the friends you’ve had since you were a kid or a teenager, are the ones you call your friends today.

My best friend is Lynette.  I have known her since we were young and hot and you couldn’t tell us a thing! I spent the day with her recently and we reminisced about some of the crazy things we used to do.  We are both a lot calmer (I guess that’s cause we’re older) these days, but we still get into some mischief every now and then.

Over the years Lynette has lived in different cities other than Detroit.  At times, we may have only seen each other once or twice a year.  Sometimes, not even that.  She is the type of friend that you don’t  have to hold her hand and babysit.  You know how some friends have a fit if you don’t call them everyday.  But Lynette is not like that and neither am I.  Actually I prefer that we don’t talk everyday and she understands this.   When we do talk, it’s like it was yesterday and we just pick up right where we left off.

Another reason Lynette and I have been friends for almost 30 years, is that we genuinely like each other.  You know how you hear “so-called girlfriends” talk about each other behind their backs and refer to their “friend” as that bitch under their breath.  Not me and Lynette.  We have never infringed upon each other in any way.  Our criticisms are few and we just accept each other as we are.  Friendship with Lynette is easy because she is easygoing and on the whole, so am I.  She is like the sister I never had.  And I have a sister, but we are not that close due to her crazy husband.  But that’s another story.

Bottom line is I love Lynette and our friendship! Have you told your best friend how much they mean to you.  If not, do it today.  Their friendship is precious and can last forever!


My Legacy July 19, 2009

Filed under: life — assistingu1st @ 4:52 pm
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Since the death of Michael Jackson (I was a big fan), I’ve been thinking about my legacy.  What will I leave to the world when I die.  For Michael, it will be his legacy as the “King of Pop”.  He will live on through his music.

I, on the other hand have no Thriller or Billie Jean to exemplify my genius.  No one will ever no my name except for my family, and they often forget that except for when they want something.  So what will I leave to the world once I’m gone.  For me I hope that it will be the kindness and love that I have shown other people. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no Mother Theresa, but I try to be just a little friendlier, a little kinder to people I meet throughout my life.  It takes so little to smile or just say hello.   If someone feels just a little better because of a small act of kindness, the world is just a little bit better.

I believe that kindness and love live on in the people we have touched.  It’s sort of like the  “pay it forword” concept.  One act of kindness  begets another act of kindness.  I may not die famous and my name on everyone’s lips, but I know that I have touched other people in a meaningful way and hopefully you as well.  So here’s to kindness and love – may they live on forever.